Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Got Needs?

Bee and flower ~ both getting their needs met.

For the past several months I have been in the relationship classroom of this ongoing soul college curriculum that has become my life.    In order to gain some clarity on this subject ~ and to improve upon my understanding of what has been missing (especially given the mixed messages from my family of origin) ~ I've done a lot of research.

Here's a valuable list I found just this week.  I am compelled to share it with you.

Basic Needs in Relationships

The need for good will from others.

The need for emotional support.

The need to be heard by the other and to be responded to with respect and acceptance.

The need to have your own view, even if others have a different view.

The need to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real.

The need to receive a sincere apology for any jokes or actions you find offensive.

The need for clear, honest, and informative answers to questions about what affects you.

The need for freedom from accusation, interrogation, and blame.

The need to live free from criticism and judgement.

The need for encouragement.

The need for freedom from emotional and physical threat.

The need for freedom from angry outburst and rage.

The need for freedom from labels which devalue you.

The need to be respectfully asked rather than ordered.

The need to have your final decisions accepted.

The need for privacy at times.


Based on your own experience, is there anything you would add to the list?

I wish happy, healthy relationships for all of us, in which our needs are gently nourished and sustained.